I Saw the “Sign”…

To be completely cliché and reference something from the book/movie He’s Just Not That Into You, we’ve really gotta stop reading into these “signs” that our person of interests are sending us because on too many occasions, those quote-unquote “signs” actually aren’t referencing any interest or feeling that we’ve led ourselves to believe is going through that person’s head…

But on that note, how the hell are we supposed to read people then?! If we can’t pick up on any signal or indication that they are interested or the opposite, how are we expected to act accordingly? I’ve been on both sides of both situations. Here are what I find to be the most frustrating scenarios:

A) You are like someone. You send them what you believe to be clear expressions of interest in hopes to a receive a reciprocated response that you will further translate as “they like me back.” SO many times I’ve thought this was the situation but events did not unfold as I desired because they’re “just a flirty person” or they like the attention or whatever. The point – most of these guys didn’t act on it when they should have or could have. Fine. I just wish would stop at that but, in more cases than not, these same guys continue to seek that attention or try to make later efforts… too little too late.

B) Some guy is into me but, unfortunately, I am not interested. I try to send what I would interpret as very clear signals of platonic indifference to their advances or, if needed, very forward statements of “no, thank you.” (These statements obviously have a very large-scale, depending on the situation and personality at hand.) Still, these stubborn, pests insist on repeating these advances and efforts which I continually have to reject. How many different ways do I have to tell you, “Hey, you can’t get it?” Honestly, take the hint and move on a little quicker. It will save everyone’s time and energy.

I swear. Dating is the worst , most frustrating thing that a single person has to go through. I now see why so many people end up settling for their mediocre crap relationships (or situations they want to classify as “complicated”) that they’ve led themselves to believe is good enough.

But what about those of us who don’t want to settle??? I feel that I’ve worked my whole life to come to this clear understanding of what I am looking for and the values I find behind it. Frankly, I refuse to put up with unnecessary crap that will ultimately leave me eternally frustrated just so that I can say I’m not alone…

I guess here’s to the tireless voyage that is “looking for your soul mate” or however you’d like to phrase it, and whatever guided or misdirected signs come the way in the process. I guess ultimately it all points towards where we’re going so, bring it. It’s not like there’s a map for this…